By Dr. Randy Carlson

I’ve come to realize the biggest problem we face with this whole thing of being intentional is ourselves. Our biggest enemy is ourselves.

I’m the one that gets in my own way. Have you ever noticed that you get up and you realize that our greatest enemy isn’t our spouse, our neighbors or our culture? Some days it’s not even Satan, it’s you!  For example, we:

  • Procrastinate on important things.
  • Eat what’s unhealthy for us.
  • Say things that are unkind.
  • Buy what is unaffordable.
  • Trust those who are unreliable.
  • Support rules that are unjust
  • Think what is untrue.

That is how many of us live our lives.  In fact, we even have a vocabulary to identify this thing of the problem of self.  We use phrases like, “I’m my own worst enemy,” or “I’m going to shoot myself in the foot.” We set ourselves up for failure.

The problems we face in life have roots that go into yesterday’s desires and into yesterday’s actions.  We become a product of the things that we desire in our lives. The desires of our heart get us into trouble. Even the Apostle Paul had this challenge in Romans 7.  He said, “For I have the desire to do what is good, but I can’t carry it out.” He admits that of all the things that he knew in his relationship with Christ, and all that he went through, the biggest problem he had was himself. He got in his own way.

We live in a world of good intentions.  Living intentionally in Christ is hard because the desires we have can be the problem.  If you change your desires, that changes your actions, and ultimately changes your life.

What is desire? From a biblical perspective, the word desire means something I long for.  It’s a deep, abiding thing that grabs hold of me, and I desire it. The world tells us we should desire – a new car, a new way of living, or a new experience.  The world constantly places things in front of us to distract us. If we pick those things up, they become the desires of our heart, and unfortunately create problems.

Think about your desires. Where did they come from? How did your desires from yesterday impact your life today? What one thing can you do during these next 30 days that will help you align your desires to God’s desires to bring Him glory?


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