As you strive to be an intentional parent, taking a step back and thinking about your interactions with your children will give you valuable insight. 

Children will test your resolve, patience and stamina. Yet, we are grateful for them. God’s Word says, “children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward.” (Psalm 127:3 NKJV).

To stay sharp and effective, you need to schedule time to reflect on your parenting actions, the reactions of your children and be prepared to hit the “reset” button.

The philosopher Socrates observed that “the unexamined life is not worth living.” A powerful thought, but self-examination is tough and often emotionally unpleasant. That’s why you must make it intentional.

1. Reflect

Set aside a specific time to reflect. Put it on your calendar, and treat it as your most important appointment. Be sure to schedule your time in a quiet location where you will not be disturbed.

2. Inquire

Ask yourself – and answer honestly – questions about your parenting. Which parenting techniques were most effective with your children? Did you dispense love and correction in appropriate proportions? What were the triggers that caused you to lose control?

3. Rate Yourself

Develop a list of objectives and rate yourself weekly on scale of 1 to 10, with 1 meaning, “This was a complete struggle,” and 10 meaning, “I did this one exceptionally well.”

Your list might include these objectives:
 

• “I did not do for my children what they could do for themselves.”
• “I did not overreact when my child overreacted.”
• “My decisions were not be altered by anger, tears, cursing or threats.” 
• “I provided training, instruction and support as needed.”

Evaluation, adjustments and resets are critical aspects of parenting. Make sure you don’t neglect them.

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