You know that the cliché about “sticks and stones” isn’t true. Your choice of words will determine the quality of your relationships and life.

One of the most important documents in history was the Treaty of Versailles – the agreement formally ending World War I.

Although intended to produce a lasting peace, the Treaty’s provisions were so punitive against Germany that it actually did the opposite. Most historians believe World War II, which killed over 50 million people, was an “unintended consequence” of the Treaty.

You can begin a war of words without realizing it. Your words, written or spoken, will inevitably inspire or discourage, build up or destroy. To fill your words with peace,

1. Understand that everyone’s perspective and background causes them to interpret messages differently,
2. Acknowledge that your communication skills may not be as fine-tuned as you think they are and
3. Be alert for “unintended consequences” of your words.

Jesus was the greatest communicator who ever walked the earth, but there is a fascinating story in the gospel of John chapter 3 illustrating His response when His words were misinterpreted. Christ began the conversation by telling Nicodemus, a Pharisee, that he must be “born again.”

Nicodemus was an intellectual, a member of the Jewish ruling council. Yet he didn’t understand the concept Jesus had communicated. So what did the Lord do? He explained it again, in several different ways. John 3:16, a verse known to every Sunday school child because of its simple explanation of the gospel, is part of Christ’s response.

Ask God to help you

- Deliver pleasant words and “gentle answers” (Proverbs 15:1),
- Remember the devastating power of your words (James 3: 5, 6) and
- Change from the inside, since the mouth speaks what is on the heart. (Mark 7:20-23)

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